Want to be successful? Stop saying these things

What you decide not to say can change your life

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1. It’s too late now

Nothing is ever too late. This is something very successful people have come to terms with. When you say it’s too late, your mind shifts from thinking of what to do to the feelings of regret, sympathy and empathy. But the moment you said it’s too late, it is not yet too late. This is a fact. It became too late the moment you said it. If you didn’t say it and you allow your mind to go to work, you can still catch up no matter how behind you seem to be. Nothing is ever too late. When the thought of too late comes to you and you’re thinking of giving up, at that point it is not yet too late. This is a vital principle of life. You may not be able to do what you are supposed to do before, but you can do something that will make up for it and get you back on track. It is not too late. It is never too late to go to school, it is not too late to make the call, the deadline date for applications may have passed but it is never too late to prove yourself worthy of the job. If you say it is too late, it will be too late for you. But if you refuse to say it is too late and you allow your mind to brood on the matter, you will figure out a way to catch up (with what it seems like you missed). You can miss a birthday but it’s never too late to say it in the most exceptional fashion. This attitude of ‘never too late’ will take you closer to success like nothing else will.

2. I had no choice

Many often use this to express the reasons for wrong decisions and failures. You always have a choice. There is never a time you are without a choice. We choose every day. You chose to read this. I chose to write this. I could have decided to be doing something else or writing something else. Our lives are shaped by our choices. Even at the point of death, you still have a choice. That’s why we use this phrase, ‘gave up the ghost’. I have heard of someone who took 6 bullets to their chest and survived while another was hit in the leg by a stray bullet and died. There was someone who had a drilling machine pierce into his skull and survived, while another fell in his bathroom and died. It all boiled down to how much of a fighter is in the person. There is always a choice. There is always an opportunity cost. If you say you had no choice, you mind will be narrowed down to be blinded to the other options you have. You always have a choice. If you allow your mind to explore your options by not saying this, you will be surprised how much options are available to you. You always have a choice, never say you don’t.

3. I don’t know how ...

If you don’t know something and you require the knowledge, you ought to go ahead and learn it, not announce that you don’t know it.

4. I can’t afford it

Instead of saying this, why can’t you ask, ‘how can I afford it?’ If you don’t want it just say you don’t want it. If it is not worth what you will let go for you to have it, just say it’s not worth it for you at this time. And you say it is not worth it after considering how you can afford it. Never say you can’t afford something. At least consider how you can afford it. Saying that you can’t afford something shuts your mind off. But if you really want it now, ask, ‘how can I afford it?’ Your mind will open up and you will see options you didn’t know exists. Use your words to open your mind

5. That’s impossible

This is like a default phrase of some people. Such people never experience profound success. This is because their minds have been unconsciously drenched in impossibility such that with a little resistance, they can’t see a way through. It is important to see through circumstances and situations. Instead of saying ‘that’s impossible’, why don’t you ask, ‘how did it happen?’ When you ask to seek to understand, your mind opens up to information, ideas and possibilities. You become someone that can make things happen. Those who always say, 'that’s impossible' never see possibilities and they never do remarkable things, hence they are never successful.

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